Are you ready to shed some light in the dark corners of your life? Today’s article will give you a flashlight and batteries, but you have to put the batteries in and aim it.
The process we will begin to uncover in today’s newsletter is about how to leap forward in your life. For most of us our lives includes both career and personal.
You can apply this process to both aspects of your life – choose one to start with.
Leaping beyond the blame game
Blame is the least powerful position to come from. So it is best if we quit blaming others and quit blaming ourselves. Until we acknowledge our present circumstances and accept them we can’t change them.
I want you to imagine a bathtub full of dirty water that has been used numerous times. Yuck – who would want to bathe in that?
Well I want to compare our resentments, jealousies, judgments, hatred, thoughts of revenge, fear, and any dark thoughts or feelings to that dirty tub of water.We first must realize that when we allow our thoughts and feelings to remain on the dark side we are bathing in a filthy tub of water.
Now I will tell you how to empty that tub, clean it and fill it with clean water. This week’s newsletter will only address the first step of this process – draining out the dirty bath water.
Get a tablet (or pull up a word document) and I want you to write down these questions:
- Who do I judge most harshly and what am I judging them on? (note it may be ourselves).
- Who am I jealous of and what am I jealous about?
- What do I fear and why?
- Who do I resent and why do I resent them?
- Who do I hate (yes none of us want to admit hating anyone – but do you have any sparks of hatred within you?).
- Who would I like to get some revenge on and why?
As a positive person I usually resist this type of exercise, but I have come to see the value in this. Unless we recognize and own our dark side we can not fully move to the light side.
Three steps to leap forward
We have to Acknowledge our feelings, Accept our feelings, and then Release our feelings. If we skip any part of this process we are only covering up the wounds and not healing them.
So answer the questions above, that is the Acknowledging part.
Now accept those feelings – don’t resist them and definitely don’t judge them. It is okay to have these feelings (just not to hold on to them for your whole life).
Yep, just accept them.
Now after writing them down and accepting them take the piece of paper and either burn it (safely) or tear it up in little pieces. If you want to add a little emphasis to this releasing process you can say “I now release these negative feelings and I am ready to bring in positive feelings that better serve and support me.”
Make this a private ceremony.
Don’t be afraid of what someone else might think (or that little voice in your head) – just do this first step of this process. You will feel BETTER and will have prepared yourself for Step 2 that will be revealed in my next article.
Tips of the Day
Every thought you have has an energy that will either strengthen or weaken you.
~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
So choose your thoughts wisely :-)!
BE GRATEFUL and spread kindness – it will all come back to YOU!!